How My Boyfriend​ And I have 3 years Going STRONG – Relationship Advice Part 1

Hey guys! Thank you for visiting my second home. A few days ago I shared some relationships tips in my Instagram stories and asked you guys if you would like to see a video answering your questions about our relationship and many of you said YES! Well, I thought it would be even better if I made this a series here on the blog and I will answer questions or even dilemmas once a month!

In today’s blog post I will be answering some of the questions I got so grab some popcorn or a snack and let’s do this!

Q: WHAT MADE YOU WANT TO MOVE IN WITH RUDY? & HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH FAMILY CRITICISM?

A: Fun fact, I didn’t want to move in with Rudy because I wanted to do that once we got married. Something very hard and sad happened in my life at the moment and Rudy opened the door to his house where we lived for a month after that we moved to our own place. At first, my family was very upset but they understood and now they are so supportive! Also now that I am past the storm, I can see that God let that happen to place me right where I am. Yes, I wished things were different but I am thankful.

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Q: WHAT IS THE APPROPRIATE AGE TO DATE?

A: Well my dad let me start dating at the age of 16 and I actually waited until 16 to start dating. I feel like the right age is when you are mature enough to say no, you know what’s right and wrong and can make your own decisions. Being in love can be dangerous sometimes so wait until you are mature.

Q: WHAT KEEPS A GOOD AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP ALIVE?

A: DATING DATING DATING!! Me and Rudy have 3 years together and we live together so we see each other every day and honestly sometimes the fun of it kinda goes away and sometimes we forget to date and go out to the movies or go to a park or even plan a spa day (which we are planning now) I feel like if you and your boyfriend/husband stop dating, the relationship can become very stiff and boring so never stop dating!

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Q: IF YOUR PARTNER DOES SOMETHING YOU DON’T LIKE, DO YOU ADDRESS IT OR LET IT SLIDE?

A: We address everything right away! I am very very vocal so if something is bothering me I will let him know. Also Rudy. We were bad at communicating at first but now we mastered it. You can’t let things build up because there will be a point where you will burst out with emotions and it can hurt your relationship. always keep it 100%, babe!

Q: HOW DO YOU BOTH KEEP GOD AT THE CENTER OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

A: I get this question often, It is hard for me to answer sometimes because Rudy was not a believer or Christian like me and that was one of the biggest flaws in our relationship because I am a believer and I view things differently. For a while, I was introducing Jesus to rudy and I prayed about it a lot. Jesus has a way to save his children. I know he put us together so he can be saved and he can know more about him. Our relationship wouldn’t be where it is if Rudy refused to know him but he did. Yes, he got a long way to go but I love when we pray together, read scriptures together and most importantly, seeing him grow in faith has been the most amazing thing.

Q: FAVORITE THING TO DO WITHOUT EACH OTHER?

A: It is soo important to do your own thing separate from your partner. For me it is my blog, recording videos and my social media! For Rudy is the gym, reading & going on bike rides!

 

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I hope you guys enjoyed this blog post! it got real very quickly but i love opening up to you guys! Don’t forget to comment more questions for the next one below!

 

Best,

M

 

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LIVING WITH MY BOYFRIEND! (HOW IS IT LIKE, THINGS THAT ARE ANNOYING & MORE) *VIDEO*

CLICK HERE TO WATCH THE VIDEO!

Living with your boyfriend must be a dream right? You are finally able to sleep and wake up next to each other, cook together, go to the movies very late without having to ask your parents for permission. Sounds awesome right? What if I told you that Living with your boyfriend got it’s cons too and it can be annoying at times?

TELLING IT ALL IN THE VIDEO! CLICK HERE TO WATCH!

 

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THINGS GIRLS WANT TO KNOW ABOUT GUYS| My Boyfriend’s Perspective

Hello hello welcome to my blog where we just do crazy things like this post (LOL).

Last night i was thinking about when i was younger. I wonder many things when it comes to guys like if they liked me or what were they thinking. Let’s be honest, most of the guys don’t overthink as much as we girls do but i thought it would be helpful (and super fun) to get some of the most common questions answered by my  boyfriend so SHOUT OUT TO MY RUDY FOR VOLUNTEERING FOR THIS Q&A.

Let’s get started, shall we?

BABE TAKE THE HOT SEAT AND LET’S ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS!

Q.1; Why guys are not straight forward if they like me or not?

A; Making you wait for an answer makes them feel good, you like him and he knows that. Guys love knowing when a women likes them, it boosts their self esteem.

Q.2; What guys really look in a relationship?

A; They look for someone who’s gonna hold them down, a partner that is willing to do anything with him. when times get tough he needs someone to lean on, someone who’s gonna stay with him even when everything is going down hill because they believe in him and in better days to come. They want that forever women who’s personality and heart is pure.

Q.3; What is one quality guys love in a girl?

A; We love silly girls, Coral is a clown and i love it. She knows how to put a smile on my face on seconds. I don’t know if that answers the question but life is about having fun, smiling and laughing all the time and we want to share those moments with someone.

Q.4; What you think would be the perfect first date?

A; The perfect first date in my opinion will be going to an amusement park or watching a broadway show. Having lunch or dinner as your first date makes things awkward because it’s a date not an interview. Doing something fun that you both enjoy is the way to go.

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Q.5; What are 3 things girls do that guys hate?

A; 3 things that girls do that guys hate. 1) Take long shopping, we want to go in get what we need and leave, 10 minutes tops. 2) Not admitting when they wrong, arguments will go so much faster if they just admit they are wrong. 3) taking forever to get ready!!

Q.6; What are signs that clearly indicate that a guy isn’t interested in you?

A; Some signs that indicates a guy isn’t interested in a girl are 1) his efforts to take you out on the first date. 2) main focus is getting you to bed 3) not showing you that he is thinking about you with a simple text or call.

Q.7; What is that one fashion trend most guys hate to see a girl wear?

A; There really isn’t a fashion trend us guys don’t like, but one thing i don’t like is when girls think that makeup is what makes them beautiful. That is totally wrong, being natural is the most beautiful thing you can do.

Q.8; What are your thoughts on sex before marriage?

A; First you have to fall in love with the person for who they are flaws and all. Second is appearance, and 3rd is the sex drive that person arises in you which you will never know if you decide on sex after marriage. so to answer this question both parties have to decide if they want to wait or not.

Q.9; Boobs or butt and why?

A; Butt because you have more to grab on without hurting them.

Q.10; What would be the most romantic thing a girl would do for you?

A; The most romantic thing a girl can do for me is buy me protein lol. That’s one of many things a girl can do but another romantic thing they could do is surprise me with a good cooked meal at home with a little candle lit and a cup of wine even though i don’t drink LOL.

That is it guys!!! the last question is funny because all my boyfriend do is eat. But comment down below which one is your favorite question from them all and ask Rudy more questions for the next blog post!!!

Much love,

Melody.

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YOUNG LOVE| Finding true love at age 16???

If you guys know, I am 17 years old, turning 18 this April. And i been dating my boyfriend since i was 16 years old.. Funny story, We have been talking since i was 15 but technically i wasn’t “allowed” to date until i turned 16 and the goodie goodie daughter that i am, i OF COURSE followed the rules but i was counting down the days to date my boyfriend and it was awesome when we made it official.

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When people tell me what do i think of dating at such a young age the first thing i tell them is that young love is GENUINE. When you date someone at that age you don’t think about money or the future, you are just enjoying that person to the max. You love their presence and being away from them is just a nightmare! that is one of the things i loved about dating my boyfriend.

We both were immature and with time we both experienced a lot of hard times together and we are still facing tough times but having someone to have your back and see you grow it is one of the best things of young love.

I don’t regret any decisions that i made and i will do another blog post telling you guys the crazy things we have done because there are so many!!

young love is just as beautiful as any stages of love. i am positive that you can find true love when you are 75 years old. Just be open to different people and the right one will come knocking at your door!

god bless, melody ❤️

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